{"id":2996,"date":"2023-10-19T20:29:47","date_gmt":"2023-10-19T20:29:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cccfornews.com\/index.php\/2023\/10\/19\/the-lives-of-children-depend-on-letting-them-play\/"},"modified":"2023-10-19T20:29:47","modified_gmt":"2023-10-19T20:29:47","slug":"the-lives-of-children-depend-on-letting-them-play","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cccfornews.com\/index.php\/2023\/10\/19\/the-lives-of-children-depend-on-letting-them-play\/","title":{"rendered":"The Lives of Children Depend on Letting Them Play"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div id=\"body\">\n<p class=\"intro\">This piece was adapted from Russell Moore\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/christianitytoday.activehosted.com\/index.php?action=social&amp;chash=dff70232bcd2396f4a6c7bb57dab3e87.14605&amp;s=e48749d03c8696b506b573b494dffd71\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"intro\" rel=\"noopener\">newsletter<\/a>. Subscribe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/ct\/newsletters\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"intro\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\"><span class=\"dropcap\">M<\/span>ost people know that something is going badly awry with the next generation.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">We know this not because older people are, as always, complaining about how the morals and manners of kids these days are so much worse than they used to be. We know it instead because the young people themselves are telling us so. In almost <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychiatrist.com\/news\/survey-42-of-gen-z-diagnosed-with-a-mental-health-condition\/#:~:text=The%20younger%20generation%20has%20powered,with%20a%20mental%20health%20condition.\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">every category<\/a> of mental health disorder\u2014anxiety, depression, and so on\u2014we see spikes that are unprecedented. The question is why, and why now?<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">It\u2019s not often that an executive summary from <em>The<\/em><em>Journal of Pediatrics <\/em>ricochets around the internet. But this week we saw just that with the findings of a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.jpeds.com\/article\/S0022-3476(23)00111-7\/fulltext\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">study<\/a> from three researchers entitled \u201cDecline in Independent Activity as a Cause of Decline in Children\u2019s Mental Well-Being: Summary of the Evidence.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">The broad thesis is that, while many factors have led to the national emergency we are seeing with adolescent mental health, there is one major factor that is insufficiently recognized: the decline in unstructured, unmanaged, and unsupervised play.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">The study shows, for instance, how rates of children playing outside has plummeted. This is not because of the \u201claziness\u201d of video-gaming kids but because of parents\u2019 fears of crime or traffic or, I would add, of not being seen as good parents.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">This research is supported by social psychologist Jonathan Haidt\u2019s upcoming <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic\/dp\/0593655036\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">book<\/a><em> The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness<\/em>, which releases in March 2024. After reading the manuscript, I believe this will be a decade-shaping book\u2014Haidt\u2019s arguments are compelling and reshaped my thinking.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">Haidt demonstrates that what we are currently seeing are not just the \u201cnormal\u201d patterns of anxiety true in every era. Something has dramatically changed since 2010. One of the major points of the book centers on a shift from what Haidt calls \u201cplay-based childhood\u201d to childhood based on \u201csafetyism\u201d\u2014defined by \u201cover-supervision, structure, and fear.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">It turns out that play and exploration are essential for what it means for us to thrive as human beings. And by <em>play<\/em>, I do not mean organized sports or hobbies (while those are important). I mean the sort of unstructured freedom to independently encounter obstacles and problems\u2014and overcome them. And to pursue this for its own sake, not to put an item on a college admission application or a r\u00e9sum\u00e9 or even to gain status with one\u2019s peers.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">This might look like spending a day wandering through the woods, playing an impromptu stickball game with the neighbors on a city street, or combing the neighborhood looking for arrowheads or lost coins\u2014without a hovering parent in sight.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">Why do we need this?<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">In the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Wayfinding-Science-Mystery-Humans-Navigate\/dp\/1250096960\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">book<\/a><em> Wayfinding: The Science and Mystery of How Humans Navigate the World, <\/em>M .R. O\u2019Connor notes that one of the things that distinguishes human beings from animals is that our cognitive abilities are rooted not in instinct but in process.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">No one tells cicadas when it\u2019s time to find a mate or bees how to get back to the hive. Human beings, though, need to be lost. We need to find ourselves in situations where we must collect information, remember markers and monuments, and find our own way.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">In this kind of \u201cwandering,\u201d we learn how to \u201crecord the past, attend to the present, and imagine the future.\u201d A child who gets lost in a game of Capture the Flag or who doesn\u2019t know how to get back from where she meandered in a forest becomes embedded in a story\u2014a story filled with manageable \u201ccrises.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">\u201cOut of the stream of information generated by our movement, we create origins, sequences, paths, routes, and destinations that make up narratives with starting points, middles, and arrivals,\u201d O\u2019Connor <a href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/books\/edition\/Wayfinding\/9WY-DwAAQBAJ?hl=en&amp;gbpv=1&amp;dq=%22Out+of+the+stream+of+information+generated+by+our+movement%22&amp;pg=PA6&amp;printsec=frontcover&amp;bshm=rime\/1\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">writes<\/a>. \u201cIt\u2019s this ability to organize and remember our journeys that gives us the ability to find our way back.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">In this week\u2019s episode of <em>The Russell Moore Show<\/em>, I had a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/ct\/podcasts\/russell-moore-show\/hope-for-high-conflict-amanda-ripley-election-politics.html\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"\" rel=\"noopener\">conversation<\/a> with Amanda Ripley, who is probably the world\u2019s most-respected living expert on matters of \u201chigh conflict.\u201d Referring to some of my experiences over the past few years, she said, \u201cI genuinely don\u2019t know how you survived that.\u201d I don\u2019t either.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">I can say that it was by the grace of God, which is true\u2014but that grace didn\u2019t just suddenly show up. Part of that grace was the fact that, growing up, I had ample time to explore on my own. When I wasn\u2019t in school, at church, or at a family meal or outing, my parents did not know where I was.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">I cringe when I think of the snake-infested swamps I explored and the busy roads on which I rode my bicycle with a friend\u2014all without GPS or an app synced to a device in my mom\u2019s pocket. That wasn\u2019t because my parents were neglectful. In fact, just the opposite\u2014both my parents were deeply involved in my life, as were both sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles, neighbors, church members, pastors, and the Avon lady. They just never thought to helicopter, mostly because they didn\u2019t think they were supposed to.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">They would never have allowed me in a place of danger that would be too overwhelming for me. They would have stepped in immediately had they found out that I was going to a knife-throwing competition, a biker gang meetup, an Alice Cooper concert, a Southern Baptist Convention executive committee meeting, or anything like that. But short of that, I was given the freedom to find my own way. And that is grace.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">Without a sense of play and of wayfinding and of overcoming manageable obstacles, any one of us could start to see the world as a dark, foreboding place and ourselves as at its mercy. With that sort of pressure, one simply cannot engage the imagination or learn how to quiet the limbic system. By learning how to find our way home literally, we learn that we might also find our way home metaphorically when needed.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">As Christians, this principle shouldn\u2019t surprise us. The Bible repeatedly pictures human life as a pilgrimage. God put his people in wildernesses without maps, with only landmarks that pointed to past mercies and future promises\u2014a Bethel here and an Ebenezer there.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">Sometimes God led his people with an unpredictable pillar of cloud or fire, at times leaving them in the tension of it all with what seemed to be a silent sky overhead. It\u2019s the wilderness, not the temple courts, that teaches us that \u201cman does not live on bread alone\u201d (Deut. 8:3).<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">When his disciples wanted to know where they were going, Jesus would say, \u201cCome \u2026 and you will see\u201d (John 1:39). When one of them wanted to know the way to the other side, to where they could find him, Jesus simply said, \u201cI am the way\u201d (14:6).<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">We ought to thus learn from this moment. The next generation needs security\u2014counsel, guidance, affection, love. But they also need to not be responsible for assuaging all the adult anxieties of their parents or teachers. They need to play. They need to wander. They need to imagine. That\u2019s true of parenting, and it\u2019s true of discipleship too.<\/p>\n<p class=\"text\">Perhaps the best thing we can do for the saved is to let them get lost sometimes.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bio\">Russell Moore is the editor in chief at <span class=\"citation\">Christianity Today<\/span> and leads its Public Theology project.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"js-countPages\" data-pages=\"1\"\/><\/div>\n<p><script>\n  !function(f,b,e,v,n,t,s){if(f.fbq)return;n=f.fbq=function(){n.callMethod?\n  n.callMethod.apply(n,arguments):n.queue.push(arguments)};if(!f._fbq)f._fbq=n;\n  n.push=n;n.loaded=!0;n.version='2.0';n.queue=[];t=b.createElement(e);t.async=!0;\n  t.src=v;s=b.getElementsByTagName(e)[0];s.parentNode.insertBefore(t,s)}(window,\n  document,'script','https:\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/fbevents.js');\n  fbq('init', '1800576576821396');\n  fbq('track', 'PageView');\n  fbq('track', 'ViewContent');\n  <\/script><script src=\"https:\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/all.js#xfbml=1\"><\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/ct\/2023\/october-web-only\/mental-health-illness-stats-crisis-study-haidt-anxious-gen.html\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This piece was adapted from Russell Moore\u2019s newsletter. 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