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By Leonardo Blair<\/a>, Senior Reporter \"Facebook\"<\/a>\"Twitter\"<\/a><\/div>\n<\/header>\n
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Pastors Reginald and Kelley Steele of Kingdom Church in Phoenix, Ariz.<\/span> | YouTube\/Kingdom Church<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

With the approval of her co-pastor husband, Reginald Steele of Kingdom Church<\/a> in Phoenix, Arizona, Kelley Steele warned Christian women in her congregation to avoid withholding sex from their husbands because it\u2019s unbiblical and they could push their husbands in the arms of \u201csome trick, some ho, some homewrecker that will give him exactly what he needs with no rules.\u201d<\/p>\n

Speaking in a Sunday morning service last month<\/a> while sharing the pulpit with her husband, Kelley Steele cited several scriptures on the wisdom of women submitting their husbands.<\/p>\n

\u201cI fear the Lord first, so it makes submission easy. If you don\u2019t like what he\u2019s doing, you still have to submit. If you don\u2019t feel like submitting, you have to do it to honor Jesus,\u201d Kelley Steel told her congregation.<\/p>\n

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\u201cWhat if he\u2019s not acting right. What if he\u2019s not following God? This is your husband now, what if he\u2019s not living for Jesus. Let me tell you what the Bible says. In 1 Peter 3:1 it says, \u2018wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,\u2019\u201d she explained.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you\u2019re married and your husband doesn\u2019t serve God or is not a man of God, I promise you, if you begin to live a life that is Christ driven, Christ first, you begin, to pray to God, live what you read and actually regurgitate it and apply it to your life. Change your old way, become a new creature, your husband will be affected because you are one flesh,\u201d she added.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe will realize, my God, something\u2019s different about her. She\u2019s not the same person. I can\u2019t even make her mad anymore. She doesn\u2019t go off and chase me with knives anymore. He can\u2019t deny that God is real in your life, and you win by your conduct. You win by your behavior, and it\u2019s not even you. It\u2019s Jesus Christ in you that is winning that person.\u201d<\/p>\n

She then pointed to Ephesians 5:22-23 which says: \u201cWives, submit yourselves to your own husbands\u00a0as you do to the Lord.\u00a0For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,\u00a0his body, of which he is the Savior.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you\u2019re out there sleeping with a husband that is not yours, leave him alone. Go find your own and submit to him,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

\u201cPreach!\u201d her husband quipped while chuckling.<\/p>\n

She further pointed to Ephesians 5:24 which says: \u201cNow as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands\u00a0in everything.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThis is some old school teaching but it\u2019s Bible and it works. And I want to bring the Word of God back into the church, amen, thank you, Jesus. I\u2019m tired of opinions and ideas, saying we\u2019ve got to change it for the culture. \u2026 No. My Bible tells me that the Word is the same yesterday, today and forever. I\u2019m old school here, I believe the word of God to be true and the Word says, \u2018submit to our husbands.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

Steele then took the opportunity to give practical examples to Christian women in her church about what submission looks like and she suggested that women need to take care of their husbands in the home.<\/p>\n

\u201cThat means you\u2019ve got to take care of your husband. You got to, I don\u2019t know, cook dinner, clean your house, clean up. Take care of yourself. Make sure that your husband has what he needs. Make sure that, listen, I\u2019m mad at you, but you could still get this. I\u2019m not holding nothing hostage,\u201d she said, pointing to the common practice of women withholding sex from their husbands.<\/p>\n

According to SavantCare<\/a>, \u201cSexual withholding refers to the deliberate decision of one partner to abstain from sexual intimacy within a marriage. This can manifest in various forms, including refusal of sex, avoiding physical affection, or creating barriers to sexual connection.\u201d<\/p>\n

Kelley Steele urged the women in her congregation not to put conditions for sex in their marriage because \u201cthere\u2019s no points system.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWell, if you take out the trash, if you help me clean up, you help me with the kids you might get some tonight. No, the devil is a liar. You make yourself available for him because he will find somebody out there. Some trick, some ho,\u2019 some homewrecker that will give him exactly what he needs with no rules,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

In a particular plea to young women, Steele urged them to avoid withholding sex in marriage.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m trying to help y\u2019all, especially these young women that think, well he needs to do this for me before … no, no, no, no,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

\u201cListen, go ahead and get what you need and I\u2019m gonna give you what you need and we\u2019re gonna make this thing work because we\u2019re a couple, we\u2019re in covenant, we\u2019re gonna make this thing last. We\u2019re gonna stay together for longer than 8.2 years. I said for life. I said for better. I said for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. I\u2019m a ride or die. I\u2019m not going nowhere,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

She also encouraged men who feel like they aren\u2019t being treated well in their marriage to let their wives know.<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd man of God, if she\u2019s not doing what you want her to do as a wife, let her know, you\u2019re dirty. My house stinks. Oh Jesus,\u201d she said smiling.<\/p>\n

\u201cCan I get a hot meal that\u2019s not frozen first? Can you make a pot roast? Can you fry chicken? Can you clean collards? Come on somebody. Can you make a biscuit? These things matter. You don\u2019t think they matter but they matter,\u201d she declared.<\/p>\n

\u201cImma tell you one thing. He might be gone early in our marriage but when he came home, I had something piping hot on the stove. And I said I had something piping hot in the bedroom, too. Amen! Praise God. I had to compete for a little bit but I ain\u2019t competing no more,\u201d she said as her husband laughed with approval.<\/p>\n

\u201cGive that man some pasta, give that man some peace, and I\u2019ll let y\u2019all fill in the other P,\u201d Reginald Steele interjected.<\/p>\n

\u201cSomebody should have ran around the church, no I\u2019m just playing,\u201d he continued as the crowd appeared to bristle then relax slightly at his comments.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe three Ps\u201d his wife said.<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd you know what that woman needs? She needs dedication, some dollars and I\u2019m gonna let y\u2019all figure out the other D\u201d the pastor said as the women shouted in approval in the church.<\/p>\n

\u201cSomebody scream, preach!\u201d he said. \u201cWe\u2019re gonna set somebody free today.\u201d<\/p>\n