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<\/source><\/picture>Former reality TV star Jill Duggar Dillard is opening up about how her participation in show business put a strain on her marriage as her new memoir is slated for publication.<\/p>\n
Dillard is one of the 19 children of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, who raised their children in a strict Christian household, as documented in the long-running TLC series \u201c19 Kids and Counting\u201d and a spinoff series, \u201cCounting On.\u201d She spoke to People magazine <\/a>as her memoir, Counting the Cost<\/em>, is scheduled for release Tuesday. In the interview with People, published Wednesday, Dillard detailed how the demands associated with filming reality television \u201ccaused a lot of frustration\u201d in her marriage to Derick Dillard.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n The Duggar daughter recalled how the reality TV lifestyle emerged as a source of tension with her spouse \u201cespecially early on, where he would feel a certain way about filming something.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019d be like, \u2018I hear you, I feel you. I also don\u2019t want to do whatever it is they\u2019re asking us to do, either. But we have to,\u2019\u201d she added.\u00a0<\/p>\n Dillard outlined how her upbringing, based on the teachings of the Institute in Basic Life Principles, which places a heavy emphasis on the importance of parental obedience, made matters worse in light of her father\u2019s role at the center of the show. \u201cIt definitely got between us,\u201d she said, referring to the impact of her perceived obligations as a daughter in relation to the show and her marriage.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cNo matter your age, you are to obey your [parents\u2019] wishes and you even have to ask them for their blessing for any major moment in your life,\u201d she added. \u201cThat could be buying a house, moving to a different state, where to go to school. We were dealing with this a lot when we were trying to make decisions for our family, and we were really wrestling back and forth with it.\u201d<\/p>\n Derick Dillard expressed agreement with his wife\u2019s assessment of the situation, telling People, \u201cWhenever we were at odds with what her dad thought we should be doing with filming, he would say things that would be very damaging.\u201d He identified problematic questions made by the Duggar family patriarch who he said would ask, \u201cIs this you, Jill, or is this you, Derek?\u201d According to Dereck, he’d also ask, \u201cAre you leading your wife astray and doing things that are not supportive of marriage?\u201d<\/p>\n Dillard described his father-in-law\u2019s efforts as trying to \u201cweaponize the relationship,\u201d saying the occurrences were a \u201cred flag.\u201d Eventually, after reflecting on how drama associated with the reality TV show and the arguments such matters would cause with her father were \u201caffecting our marriage,\u201d Jill Dillard determined that \u201cwe either need to fight this battle together, or it\u2019s going to rip us apart.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cWe had to join forces at that point,\u201d she insisted. The release of Counting the Cost<\/em> comes three years after the Dillards left the philosophy associated with the Institute in Basic Life Principles behind them. While the couple is \u201ctrusting in God\u201d as they chart a new course for their life, they have embraced therapy as what Mrs. Dillard characterizes as \u201cthe gift we didn\u2019t know we needed.\u201d They now live on the Arkansas-Oklahoma border with their three sons as they seek to live a life out of the spotlight.\u00a0<\/p>\n Addressing her book\u2019s potential to attract negative reactions, Jill Dillard declared, \u201cI feel called to do this.\u201d She asserted that \u201cwe really wanted to tell our story for my siblings, because some of them are going to face similar challenges, if they haven\u2019t already, to what I\u2019ve faced.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n For their part, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar released a statement to People declining to directly respond to the allegations laid out by their daughter and son-in-law: \u201cWe love all of our children very much. As with any family, few things are more painful than conflicts or problems among those you love. \u2026 We do not believe the best way to resolve conflicts, facilitate forgiveness and reconciliation, or to communicate through difficulties is through the media or a public forum so we will not comment.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n Counting the Cost<\/em> and this week\u2019s interview with People do not constitute the first time Jill Dillard has sought to distance herself from her famous family and the strict rules they abide by. The former reality TV star previously documented<\/a> how she wears a nose ring and pants in addition to drinking alcohol, activities that her upbringing forbade her from partaking in.\u00a0<\/p>\n Earlier this year, the Duggar family was the subject of an Amazon Prime docuseries<\/a> called \u201cShiny Happy People.\u201d It focuses on Jill Dillard and examines the teachings of the Institute in Basic Life Principles.\u00a0<\/p>\n In addition to Jill Dillard, another now-adult Duggar child has come forward to distance herself from her upbringing.<\/p>\n Jinger Duggar Vuolo discussed how she came to the conclusion that the teachings at the center of the Institute in Basic Life Principles were \u201cnot true\u201d in an interview<\/a> with The Christian Post earlier this year, where she outlined the direction of her spiritual journey going forward.<\/p>\n \u201cAs a believer, as somebody who really wants to glorify God and know what God thinks, know what pleases Him, I\u2019m going to go back to the Word of God for my answers, even if that takes me years of working through what I\u2019ve been taught and saying, \u2018OK, well, I remember what this verse said, according to this teacher, but what does it actually say? What was the actual context? What is the theme of the Word of God? And what does this look like in my life? How should I live my life accordingly?\u201d<\/p>\n Ryan Foley is a reporter for The Christian Post. He can be reached at: ryan.foley@christianpost.com<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n